Love one another, but make not a bond of love. Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. ~ Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet.
My wife, Ruth, and I, co-authors of the book Secrets of a Soulful Marriage (SkyLight Paths Publishing, 2014) recently facilitated a seminar entitled Infusing Your Relationship with Soul. I’d like to share several of the points that we discussed, along some of the participants’ contributions.
Love is the primary energy of the soul. One of our fundamental and most meaningful drives is to love and be loved.
Via the context or perspective that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, we are inclined to treat our partner with greater respect and deeper appreciation.
There are numerous ways to express soulfulness or sacredness in love relationships. We invited participants to both broaden and deepen how they experience and convey those qualities. Our expression can be brought forth physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. As a group, we fleshed out examples in each of these realms, some of which, of course, interface. Here is a partial list, which reflects various forms of soulful or sacred expression:
- stewardship and service, ranging from home maintenance to financial management to community volunteering
- offering kindness, compassion, empathy and respect
- humor, play, or levity, which create fresh perspectives
- intellectual or philosophical discussion
- sharing artistic and creative talents
- practicing stillness and/or silence
- caring touch or embrace; massage; sexual foreplay (including Tantric) and intercourse
- prayer, meditation, rituals and spiritual discourse
- supporting each other’s core values and life purpose(s)
Intention to strongly connect, with sustained presence, pervades all of these forms.
I invite you, as I did the seminar attendees, to select two specific soulful or sacred qualities that you would immediately commit to further develop. By focusing on attitudes and behaviors that enhance just those couple, you are likely to find that you’ll eventually expand soulfully in other ways, as well.