As the authors of a recently published book on the topic of marital enrichment, Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating and Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship, we enjoy receiving folks’ input about what the term “soulful relationship” means to them.
As you might imagine, people express a wide variety of attitudes and feelings in response to the question, “What makes a relationship soulful?” Here are some features that we consider central to a loving, meaningful relationship:
- Healing hurts, disappointments and resentments from your past
- Developing your character, such as integrity, compassion and generosity
- Actively listening to your partner’s expressed needs, feelings and requests, and cleanly, clearly stating your own
- Accepting and often appreciating your partner’s differences
- Practicing ways to constructively resolve issues and conflicts
- Cherishing your beloved and demonstrating respect
- Keeping romance and intimacy alive
- Championing your spouse’s overall well-being and quest for a balanced life
- Supporting each other ‘s life purpose(s) and spiritual connection
- As parents and busy professionals, ensuring that your couple relationship is primary
If you want, you could rate yourself and your mate on each of these items according to a 1 to 5 scale, whereby 1 indicates minimal practice of that specific quality and 5 represents strong, consistent demonstration of it.
Of course, this is not intended to be an exhaustive list. Discuss it with your partner and add several other traits that reflect soulfulness for you.
Here’s to a long, love-filled and mutually satisfying relationship!
-Jim and Ruth